Love or Spoil?

If you really love someone, would you push him to his best? Or would you let him feel very comfortable around you (which means no complains, no pressure, just let him be himself)? I am the lazy one, so naturally I pick the second approach. So far, it worked well with my love life.

Then, the kids come along. I always want my kids to be my best friends, so I take the second approach as well. Now, my daughter is my little girlfriend who tells me secrets from school, and my son adores me. I know that my kids are becoming junk food babies; and I know that my daughter is becoming quite self-centered. I know all that need improvements. Did I take any action? Not much. I was hoping my husband would be the bad cop. Did he take any action? Not much. He was hoping my mom would be the bad cop. Did my mom take any action? She is by far working the hardest on this, but she has bottom line too.

The fact is, we all need to be loved at the end of the day. Everyone wants to be the good cop. All the coaching and training would create distances – long before the kids would understand and appreciate it. Sorry, at this moment, allow me to be selfish. I need a lot of hugs when I get home…Wait, who is spoiling whom now? Hey, kids. Stop spoiling mommy!